Stop the madness!
Yes, it is absolutely fine to look for tips in enhancing your looks (heck, I write about these myself) but it isn't healthy to digest these articles as the answer to self acceptance. No amount of mascara or even the most luxurious Marc Jacobs handbag can make you feel whole.
At the end of the day when you wash your face, take out your extensions, and swop your designer OOTD with a pajama tee, it's important that you still see yourself as beautiful. Crucial that when you wake up and look in the mirror, you value the person you see in the mirror.
"So what can I do to accept myself as I am?"
Stop pointing out what's wrong (or what you think is wrong) all the time
Instead of comparing yourself to another person's eyes, figure, money, family, etc., realize there is nothing wrong with what you were born with. So what you can't wear a size 2? You still look amazing in a pair of blue jeans! Sure you're single, but that's only because you've decided not to spread your awesomeness with someone else right now. Just because you have a crooked smile doesn't mean it can't light up a room.
Give yourself more credit
Make a list of all the reasons you are so awesome and you'll see there's a lot to be proud of. You finished high school. You're employed in this crazy economy. You can cook a mean chicken alfredo. You're really good at home decor. You have the voice of an angel. You survived dinner with your boss. And if you're feeling really down and just can't seem to think of anything, then remember this historical wonder: You are blessed enough to live in the 20th century. Think long and hard about that one.
Show yourself some love: do something totally selfish and don't apologize
Get a massage. Indulge yourself in a two-day Lord of The Rings marathon without interruption. Have a spa day. Reserve a hotel room for the weekend and build a fort in the bed to catch up on some reading. Whatever you do, make sure that it's all about you and what you enjoy. You don't have to explain yourself to anybody. You deserve this sh*t!
Celebrate your milestones
You got accepted into college. You were offered a new job. You cleaned up your apartment.
Your blog had 50 hits today. You got a promotion. You finally finished the big kitchen project. You paid off a major credit card. It's important to celebrate your successes, even if they seem small. When you celebrate the wins of life, you have a real reason to smile, and when you smile, you're happy. And when you're happy, your brain release endorphins that make you even happier. How cool is that?
You are worthy of love and it's high time you embraced this truth. Some days are overwhelming and we just need to cut ourselves some slack. Give yourself permission to be human and be okay with that.
Not only that, but you never know who's watching. Think about the lessons you're teaching other women/men. Or the young children in your life. Do really want your niece to think her big butt is what makes her special? Or your son that a man is only as good as the suit/gold chains he's wearing? Show them what self-love really means and encourage them to do the same.
She's more than pretty, she's brilliant.
He's more than athletic, he's special.
And so are you :)
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