BEAUTIFUL DATING > SAFETY FIRST

I asked my good friend what it was like to be single and looking for love in 2015 and she said, "Girl, it's ridiculous." She said people expect sexual favors right off the bat, stalkers are more common than ever, and it's impossible to meet nice people.

Now, I don't mean to make you paranoid, but I do want you to be safe. There are some real looney bins out there and you never know what could happen. I don't have the wisdom on how to navigate the dating game in this crazy world, but I can tell you how to be safe while you're out there looking.

I found some cute 50's photos to go along with the theme today. Singles, this one is for you!

 

BEFORE YOU LEAVE THE HOUSE

* Tell someone you trust about where you're going, who you're going to meet, and when you plan to return

* Make sure your phone is fully charged. Take a pic together and send it off to a friend for identification purposes. You can sneak a pic of their plates too!

* Make sure you bring your own money. You can't expect them to pay.

* Google them. Now I know this one sounds overdone, but you'll want to know what you're getting into if they are a complete stranger. Look up Ted Bundy. My point exactly.

DRIVE

Gas up your car and drive yourself for the evening. That way if the date goes south, you can leave whenever you please and worse case scenario, you don't have to worry about them deserting you.

MEET PUBLICLY

You don't know the other person, not really. You don't know if they are a psycho planning on abducting you or if they have an out of control temper. Meeting publicly offers safety in numbers. If something goes down you can call for help.

STAY SOBER

If you're serious about meeting someone, don't drink more than one glass of wine or beer. You'll want to remain alert in case they have something else in mind that you're not ready for. Keep your glass close and order a new drink if you go to the bathroom. They could have put something in there.

INCREDIBLE BAGS: DE-CLUTTER YOUR PURSE

Here's one for the ladies!

Do you ever feel like you look inside your bag and it's a bottomless pit of junk? Articles of clothing, food bits, rocks... Every woman has been there (some are there right now as they read) but don't worry! There's hope for messy purses everywhere :) Try these helpful hints today.

WHAT'S IN THERE?

First thing first, dump it. 

Literally.

Pour all the contents out onto your desk or kitchen counter and spread each item out neatly so you can see everything side by side. (Ah, there's my favorite pen! I wondered where that went.) Now make two simple piles: KEEP, TOSS. Things you absolutely need go into the keep pile, and things that you can live without, TOSS.

(KEEP EXAMPLES: Keys, credit cards, mobile phone, sunglasses, mints)

(TOSS EXAMPLES: Post Its, trash, movies, silverware, clothes)

THE CLUTCH

Your secret weapon is the clutch. It's small, cute, and easy to transport when you switch out your bag. Keep your ID, reward/business/gift/visa cards, cash, pocket change, and a pen.

THE ZIP LOCK

Okay, so it doesn't have to be a real zip lock baggie. Small makeup bags or mini travel bags work great. This is your emergency kit. Inside, you carry travel size bottles and other essentials: Lotion, mouthwash, tissue, mascara, lip balm/lip stick, aspirin/meds, nail clipper, nail file, clear nail polish, and a hair tie. Your zip lock may differ, depending on your day to day activities.

The best part about the clutch and the zip lock is that they keep your most important items neat and compact, and they make switching bags a breeze.

! ! ! LIFE HACKS ! ! !

SANITIZER !
Invest in clip on hand sanitizer and attach it to your strap. That's one thing less inside your bag and you keep germs and viruses at bay.

SNACKS !
There's nothing worse than low blood sugar and lunch is miles away. Store a granola bar, or string cheese (or heck, beef jerky) for those times you get stuck in traffic, a meeting runs long, or you start to feel woozy.

PORTABLE POWER !
 Invest in a portable battery pack to keep your electronics charged up on the go. They range in price, come in different sizes, and can save you in a pinch when your phone dies or your tablet needs a boost.

You're welcome, ladies.

You're welcome.

WONDERFUL LIFESTYLE: Yoga Myths Debunked

Is it just a trend? Is it a religion? Is it all about the poses and twisting yourself into a pretzel? Yoga is a beautiful practice and this article will help shed some light on the active craze that's swept the world over.

MYTH: You have to be Buddhist or Hindu to practice a Yoga lifestyle.

FACT: Yoga isn't a religion!

True, it was founded in India and incorporates several principles of different beliefs, but Yoga does not point you towards any specific faith. It's a practice one can incorporate with whatever you believe. It's about connectivity, respect of life, and knowing yourself on the deepest level.

MYTH: Yoga is about getting bendy and knotting yourself into crazy poses.

FACT: That's only one element of the practice.

There are 8 limbs of Yoga, each with it's own focus for mental, spiritual and physical development. (Look for an upcoming article explaining each limb.) Asana is the most popular limb, as it is the practice of breathing and creating shapes with body used in gyms across the world. But it is enhanced by the other limbs.

MYTH: I have to be a vegetarian to be serious about Yoga

FACT: Carnivores welcomed.

There's a debate on whether Ahimsa (non-violence) extends to what we eat, versus a focus on what we do. I say eat it!

MYTH: Only Women and Hippies do Yoga

FACT: Everyone can benefit from it.

For example, let's look at downward dog. Some of the benefits are as follows:

Aids in Digestion             Strengthens Immune System          Promotes Blood Circulation
 
                             Strengthens bones and muscle   Relieves back pain

There are TONS of benefits related to practicing Yoga. There's yoga for headaches, for relaxation, for focus, even for better sex! Plus, each asana (pose) offers it's own benefits on several levels like anti-aging, hair growth, skin, and more! (Look out for an article focused on the benefits of Yoga.)

MYTH: I Can't Do It.

FACT: Everyone Can Do Yoga!

Remember, Yoga is much more than exercise. It's about calming the mind, being at peace with oneself and one's surroundings, and living well. For those focused on the physical attributes, sure, you may not be able to do a headstand right outta the gate (or ever), but Yoga is so varied that there's a pose for every level.

Give Yoga a try. Take 15-20 minutes to explore the practice a few times this week and see if you don't feel the benefits in your everyday life. I love my practice!

BEAUTIFUL FAMILY > Squash Sibling Rivary

It's really sad to me when I hear about people who haven't spoken to their family members for years due to fallouts over money, betrayal, or what not. I understand that some things seem unforgivable, but I can't imagine intentionally distancing myself from my flesh and blood for the rest of my life. I would fight for our relationship until sheer exhaustion.

I'm not naive, it takes all parties involved to make a relationship work and one sided efforts typically don't amount to much. But, if you believe your family is worth fighting for, here are some suggestions I hope will make a real difference.

Decide to Stop Fighting

My sister and I argue a lot. It's stupid really, we can make a big deal over anything and end up fuming and ruining an otherwise pleasant evening. Six months ago, I decided to stop fighting. If there was a problem, I wouldn't be the one doing the bickering. I think a few seconds longer before I respond now, and avoid saying things in offense. I definitely speak my mind, but I try not to say anything that could set her off. I love my sister and I hate arguing in general, and the decision to stop fighting has made our interactions much more enjoyable. We're sisters again.

Reach Out

Call them up and invite them to dinner. Or go see a comedy then go out for ice cream after. You want to create positive space between you so that when you reach out, you both are in a good place. By reaching out, I do not mean start talking about why you hate how they talk to your kids or whatever. Reaching out is a small gesture that opens up room for healing. You say, "Ben, I'm really glad we did this. I love it when we can just have fun together, and I want things to be better between us. Don't you?" You are by no means to start debating about past issues. Don't do anything that could alter the mood from light and happy. Simply have a good time, so the next time you talk/meet, they'll remember the good vibes you shared.

Identify the Problem

What are you fighting about? Why are you angry? When did the madness start? What is it about them, or more importantly, what is it inside of you that's got you all worked up? Some people have been disputing for so long, they don't even remember why it started in the first place. Take time alone to reflect on the source of your emotions. If you can be honest with yourself, you'll find out your true feelings and can work toward articulating them to your brother/sister, slowly and in pieces. Don't overwhelm them by unloading everything at once. You might be surprised at their response.

Seek Counseling 

I don't know why getting a professional mediator puts a bad taste in people's mouth because it is one of the most freeing experiences out there. It's the only place you can vent and come completely undone without being attacked. Once your tantrums are over, a counselor will help you discover things about yourself and the situation from a new perspective and ask those hard questions no one is willing to ask. They specialize in behavior and will advise you on how to alter your thinking in ways that help you in your daily life to be happier and relationships healthier. Now, unfortunately, there are some quacks out there so do your research. But the great ones guide you towards progress. Isn't peace in your family worth paying for?

You have to do your part, wholeheartedly. If you want to repair your sisterhood/brotherhood, you must commit to being honest, open, and keeping a positive attitude as much as possible. My experiences have taught me the power of a prayer life. Pray for self control over the words you let come from your mouth, and that your sibling's heart remains tender towards you. Pray for guidance and understanding. God is the only one I know who restores. Walk the walk and never stop trying. You may not be able to go back to the good ole days, but you can bring love back into your relationship with your sister or brother.

WONDERFUL THREADS > Formula For The Perfect OOTD

Ever see someone looking so fierce that it baffled you? How did they know how to pair those shoes with that dress and manage to look absolutely stunning? You think to yourself, "If I tried that on, I'd look like potato sack" but the truth is, you can pull a similar look off with some minor adjustments. The trick is knowing how to use style components to formulate your OOTD. Here's another 101 guide to looking your best.

STEP ONE: Fit

You know the expression "If the shoe fits, wear it?" I want you to add, "and if it doesn't fit, fix it until it does." When designers create their clothing line, they are basing their measurements off of mannequins that are representations of real bodies, so its no surprise that a third of the things on the rack are too small, a third too big, and the rest will simply have to do. The secret to looking fabulous in everything you wear is to get it tailored. Don't have the cash to hire someone? Break out a pincushion and YouTube some DIY videos on doing it yourself. Practice makes perfect, and sewing is a life skill everyone could use.





STEP TWO: Texture

How does it feel? I reference fabric detailing in my previous post on Building The Closet Of Your Dreams, but it's important here too. Again, cheap materials look cheap and can irritate your skin. But when it comes to texture, you'll also want to keep in mind how textures look against each other. A denim jacket over a t-shirt and a pair of jeans is hardly interesting. But replace that jacket with a silk scarf and now you've got something!





STEP THREE: Print

Similar to texture, you want pieces to compliment each other, not blend into one another. I've seen my fair share of matching catastrophes where the belief that one color from head to toe (literally) made them a fashionista. Don't get me wrong, black is always flattering, but not if the shades don't match and you look like you belong in the Matrix. An easy way to start incorporating print is to wear one print piece among your solids. Then, slowly, start to up your number until you feel confident in this area. Just remember, not everyone should wear more than 3 different prints in one outfit.








STEP FOUR: Sparkle

Bling is just the thing to add luxury to any look, if done properly. Typically, just a touch will do. Your accessories are perfect to add just the right amount of sparkle and give your look sophistication. Makeup is a fun way shine, but careful with the glitter. (It can easily come off as juvenile.) If you choose to use your wardrobe, you want to be careful not to overdo it, otherwise you'll end up looking gaudy. Dark colors down play sequins, the same for matte textures with patent leather. There aren't too many people (certainly none I've ever come across) who can pull off sequin pants, so when trying something new, I re-interject the importance of fit.



STEP FIVE: Statement Piece

This is la creme de la resistance! Your statement piece demands attention the moment you walk into the room. It is bold, defined, and can be used to easily strike up a conversation with new friends. It can be anything: a bag, a necklace, shoes, a headband, even eyelashes! You just want to make sure that you calculate it with the rest of your look. If you've chosen a suede clutch, then you may have to think again about that suede vest. If it's a houndstooth skirt, then ditch the aztec belt. Some people formulate their OOTD around the statement piece. For best results, try everything on and look in the mirror. If you're second guessing something, go for something else you feel more confident wearing.


You now have the artillery you need to create spectacular OOTD every single day. But for heaven's sake, don't forget about color!!

I'll post my own ensembles in the ME tab in my weekly updates. Now go forth and conquer!